Thursday, December 11, 2008

Let's Ride

Unnnnnh! It's that time of the week folks. Throwback Thursdays.

Let's rewind back to '97 (my sophomore year of HS), when No Limit was pretty much running radio and video. Mystikal, Mia X, C-Murda, Magic...yeah, you know you were at Best Buy or Target every Tuesday copping the latest No Limit joint (because they dropped an album every week if not two in one week), which you heard P saying "Unnnnnnh!" in the background on about every song. You or someone you knew or know had that "I'm 'Bout It" on VHS, and it soon became the phrase of the moment. Those 504 boys had music on lock.

And just when you were about tired of 'em, the West coast, 6'8" cutie, Montell "This is How We Do It" Jordan (shout out to the Nupes) collaborated with P and Silk to drop "Let's Ride." Who wasn't bumping this joint in the ride, or trying to grind it out to this at the latest party? Some of my girls copped the single...NO! I copped the entire CD, and Montell has now became the "2-hitter quitter" to me, because he only gives you two quality songs off the album. (Don't believe me? Go through his albums and peep.) But this song is my joint and everytime I hear, I can't help but think of the great memories of 10th grade, lol.

Video moments: Those girls took chair dancing to a whole 'nother level. I promise Shawty Lo fashioned his "Cheddar Chase" after whatever dance that P is doing in the video (jogging in place?). Those fur coats with the skullies are a hot mess.... *sigh* I miss the 90s....

Wednesday, December 10, 2008

I'm Shole is Hungry

The old adage is that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. I don’t think that it holds true, because I have seen quite a few relationships where men are dating a woman who can’t even boil water. However, when a potential/interest finds out that I cook (and I can) they are quite shocked, like it's unheard of for a woman to cook. One guy even gave me the response of "damn, can I get you pregnant." (That quote and situation deserves it's own post).

I come from a family of cooks and I was thrown in the kitchen once my moms got preggers with my lil’ sis. Since she couldn’t be on her feet, I had to cook the family dinners for 6 months and then when she didn't feel like it. Being a single woman, I also choose to cook because it helps save money (especially during this da*n recession!) and allows me to just fine tune my skills so to speak. And, I have dated quite a few men who can hold their own in the kitchen, to the point now I would like my future BF/hubby to be able to cook (and not just steak & potatoes). Not to mention, it’s quite a turn on to get breakfast in bed, or cook together on a Friday night (makes for great QT and prequel to dessert). And, I have to think about my future kids. I can’t have them eating hamburger helper or rice-a-roni every night (nothing’s wrong with it because I ate a lot of it growing up myself).

So how important is it for your S.O. to have cooking skills? Is it okay if they can at least cook breakfast or know a few meals? Or it doesn’t matter at all, as long as they bring other skills to the table?

Monday, December 8, 2008

You've Got to...Give a Little..

Christmas time = the giving season. However, with the recession being confirmed and money quite tight for everyone, coming out of pocket is not the only way you can give. Volunteering your time to a worthy charity or project is one of the best and rewarding ways to give around this time. I know that often, we want to claim our time is sooo precious, however think about those hours you spend wathching reality TV or surfing the Web can be used to help the greater good!

This past Saturday, I had the opportunity of spending the afternoon and evening with my Akanke Mentorship Program that I mentor through. It's a program started by a young lady from Richmond, CA comprised of 18 mentees who attend KIPP Charter School, who are mentored by young professional women like myself. We had a Christmas party and took the young ladies ice skating downtown (which was something that most had never done). My mentee is a 15 year old freshman, who is a cheerleader and absolutely hilarious. We're able to talk to each comfortably about life, school and family. I think about when I was a freshman (waay back in the day) and I would have loved to have a mentor who is able to offer me guidance and advice on my day-to-day life and future. I can only hope that I can be a great role model and make a difference in her life.

One of my resolutions for '08 was to get more active in my community, and with Obama winning the presidency, I find that I want to do my part in making sure this country sees the change is needs and want to offer up my gifts to help my community. And with the year quickly coming to an end, I am finding more projects and organizations that I can become involved with!

Need ideas or ways to get involved around this season and beyond? For my Chicagoans, one of my girl's volunteers through Chicago Cares, and another one of my girl's dedicates her blog to giving through charity events and volunteer projects in the city. However, there's always local community organizations and most companies offers up any ways for you to service your community.